Excerpt from a conversation about life

I wish the past was a switch to flick and just move on.

For your mental health, I wish so, but in reality, you have to deal with insecurities you never thought you would have to, and you are hopelessly ill-equipped to just shrug them off.

Give yourself time to heal, not on a deadline, but on progressive milestones. You are making progress, but not on anyone’s timeline.

You have no more fight in you. For past, present or future. Stop fighting.

You have learning in you. Learn from all that is outside and within. Learn not to judge your teachers. Learning to live and let live. Learn to love and let love, again.

You might not be able to live the love you always dreamt of. You can live the one you have left.

Your story is no longer a fairy tale, but it is your tale. Live it. Tell it.

– Osasu Oviawe


Mutually Assured Destruction.

“A strange game. The only winning move is not to play.”
– Professor Falken in the 1983 Movie War Games

Whatever you do, have the capacity and capability for war, but avoid it.

– Osasu Oviawe


You know the number you dial and hope they do not pick the call. Why do you even bother to make the call when it is filled with such anxiety?

This is a conflict that has plagued me for a while, until I realized that sometimes, duty trumps feelings.

Even when you wish the person on the other side would not pick, there is still honor in making the call.

Breathe a sigh of relief when the call is not picked.

Put on a big smile if it is picked.

Life goes on.

– Osasu Oviawe


Doubts are borne out of a conflict of tradeoffs.

Where the tradeoffs are high no matter which way you turn, doubt sets in.

The choice we need to make is usually clear. Doubt arises in the alternative we are to forego.

The price of a product does not leave us in any doubt for a purchase. It is easy to decide whether to buy or not, based on price.

Doubt sets in when we try to estimate the cost of ownership, which includes the price, utility, perception and attributable burn rate.

Which is why decisive people just pay attention to the choice to be made, and then shoulder whatever tradeoffs may follow.

The choice to be made is always evident. Make it and keep going.

As Robert De Niro said in Ronin – “Whenever there is any doubt, there is no doubt.”

– Osasu Oviawe