You can be true and kind.
To be both, you must first be kind.
The goal of candor is not just to say what you think is right, but to ensure that those that need to hear it, are open to listen. For them to listen, you must first be kind to them. They must trust that the truth is not a weapon in your hands to kill them, but a balm to heal them.
Most of my life, I have led all engagements with candor, and considered care for the feelings of my recipients as secondary. I have spoken my truth, many times bluntly, but I have also met a lot of resistance and made many enemies.
Not that I care about resistance or enemies, but I care about the fact that most people choose suffering over following my truth. A truth that would have healed them is ignored and a path that kills them is chosen, because the lack of thoughtfulness in my approach reduces trust and limits acceptance.
I have now chosen a path where if I cannot be kind, I cannot be true. No matter how urgent or important, I must first be kind in my engagement, before sharing my truth. Kindness for me is about prioritizing care for the recipient of my message over the message.
The journey will not be easy, but that is part of what makes it worth it. Here’s to the journey ahead.
– Osasu Oviawe