Stephanie talks to God about everything.

Brittany talks to God about the important things.

Who is more intimate with God?

Let your answer reshape your conversations with God.

– Osasu Oviawe

The problem is you care too much.

So much so that you are strangling the joy out of caring.

There is a healthy amount of detachment required toward things you care about.

A simple way to tell when you have tipped over with care is your level of suffering.

When the thing you care about makes you suffer, it is a signal to step back a little.

If you don’t understand the signal, that suffering will become regret.

If you understand the signal, that suffering will become a lesson.

– Osasu Oviawe

No one feels more entitled to the fruit than the one who did no planting.

– Osasu Oviawe

There is something you quickly learn in relationships:

When one party is actively seeking dirt on the other, it is to cover their own dirt.

– Osasu Oviawe

There’s a time for everything.

There’s a person for everything.

If you can’t find the time, make the time.

If you can’t find the person, make the person.

– Osasu Oviawe

Regret is a part of life.

Like all other emotions, it serves a purpose.

Its purpose is to remind you that you could have made another choice. You were not sentenced to the current choice you’re living. You chose it.

As with all other emotions, maturity is acceptance of regret as a feature and not a bug in a full life.

– Osasu Oviawe

At some point, you will get tired of being disrespected.

Until then, people will keep making you doubt your self-worth.

After then, people will check themselves before they engage.

– Osasu Oviawe

Nothing satisfies the hunger for revenge, not even complete revenge.

The only thing that saves you from its pangs is to ignore the thirst for it, even if doing so crushes you.

Revenge blocks out every other craving immediately it takes hold. Like all cravings, you can starve it.

Luckily, unlike most cravings, starving it weakens it.

Starve it.

– Osasu Oviawe

Living hell is self-judgment we project as the judgment of other people.

Nobody will ever be as hard on you as you are on yourself.

Go easy.

– Osasu Oviawe

Every birthday is a milestone, so what makes 40 special?

First of all, it is a psychological checkpoint.

There has been rapid growth in all aspects of life until this point, and all that growth comes from not knowing what is for you, what is not for you, and what just is.

Everything earlier seemed messy, chaotic, and blurry, but 40 is an opportunity to draw a line of best fit, finding a pattern of what served you, what enslaved you, and what freed you.

You still need people, but you can choose who is the best fit.

You will still make mistakes, but you can own them faster and take the learning quicker.

You are still growing, but you can be more intentional about the direction and intentional if no direction serves.

The day you turn 40 is no different from yesterday or tomorrow.

But it presents an opportunity to reflect on and redefine who you are.

You can do it at any other time, of course, but 40 is the most probable midpoint of life, so it is convenient.

But let the desire to use it not become a burden; otherwise, you have the famous midlife crisis.

Think of 40 only as a convenient check-in.

But don’t wait for it, don’t beat yourself up for not knowing better after it, don’t wish you could go back to it.

All that 40 offers is offered to you every day if you can only pause, reflect on, and redefine who you are.

– Osasu Oviawe