Presence

I had a conversation yesterday that started with a question – “How present are you right now?”

It is a variant of the self-check question – “Where am I?”

It immediately brought me back into the present and connected me to the whole.

Thank you, Elias.

– Osasu Oviawe

Peace

The hurt I have suffered in past relationships was thinking people would change if I continued showing up with love.

I have come to realise that it is best to assess if I can live with what makes me uncomfortable if change does not occur.

For lasting peace, I choose peace from the start.

– Osasu Oviawe

Reminders

I do not like reminders.

Whether it is an alarm clock, notification, pop-up message, email reminder, or a call, all reminders rub me the wrong way.

By default, I turn off all reminders in my space.

Any reminder I allow is indicative of a part of me I am trying to improve.

I use the discomfort of the reminder to nudge me towards proactively handling whatever is causing the reminder.

– Osasu Oviawe

The Goal

What is the goal of life?

The goal of life is to create.

There are three enduring metrics for life – Procreation, Creation, and Recreation.

Family, Work, and Play.

Define what success means for you in each area and design your life to achieve each.

– Osasu Oviawe

Being Overwhelmed

It is a choice. It is a strategy. It is a desired result.

You can choose otherwise. You can have a different strategy. You can desire an alternative result.

Whenever I feel overwhelmed, I ask myself 3 questions: Why am I making this choice? Why am I choosing this strategy? What is my desired result?

The last question helps me re-prioritize.

Sometimes, my desired result is to punish myself for procrastinating and ensuring that everything came to head. So, I force myself to deal with the consequences. My capacity always surprises is as I get through each activity.

Other times, being overwhelmed is a result of other people dumping the result of their procrastination on me. In such situations, I either delegate or reschedule. There is nothing in the world that can neither be delegated nor rescheduled.

Being overwhelmed is a choice.

– Osasu Oviawe

Joy

Dogs bring you joy, independent of your mood.

That is their cheat code.

They do not react to what your mood. They just offer joy and see what you do with it.

If you reciprocate, they turn up the tail wag. If you do not reciprocate, they keep trying to connect.

If you shut them down, they give you space, and then come back again when you show any sign that you are ready to receive joy.

They have hacked the basic need of humanity.

The least and most you can do for any human is to bring them joy.

– Osasu Oviawe