Everything life gives it takes, including itself.
Enjoy each gift before it passes – for good or for bad.
– Osasu Oviawe
Responsibility vs Guilt
When things go horribly wrong, as they sometimes do, a leader is faced with 2 choices: responsibility or guilt.
When he chooses responsibility, improvement action follows.
When he chooses guilt, blame-game follows.
As humans, what is outside our control is orders of magnitude greater than what is within our control.
Responsibility is how we learn from the surprises that life serves. Guilt blocks learning and shuts us down.
Things happen, own it, and be lifted by whatever may be.
– Osasu Oviawe
Life: A Journey to Understanding
It starts with loving. Everything does.
Some call it puppy love. Others call it naivete.
No one can know all of you before they love you.
They first love you and then soak in all of you.
Love is required to make your parts whole.
As the whole is revealed, the parts get questioned.
Then life progresses to judging.
Judging is the messy middle.
The middle in which we are critical about everything.
It sometimes feels like love is lost, but it isn’t.
The middle feels like the end, but it never is.
It grows into understanding.
A place where the parts and the whole become one.
You are thankful for all your experiences and find their utility in different aspects of living.
Understanding is being just as grateful for valleys as you are for peaks.
A realisation that the desires not met are just as big a blessing as the ones that were fulfilled.
Wherever you are on your journey, keep going, until you reach understanding.
And then a new journey starts.
Cheers to the journey ahead.
– Osasu Oviawe
Silence
Silence holds the most powerful parts of you.
Unlock it.
– Osasu Oviawe
Break The Pattern
You do not have to wait for time to dissipate your anger before loving those who love you.
You do not have to cut off loved ones when you feel not listened to.
You do not have to hold a grudge harder than those who love you hold a place in your heart.
You can break the pattern.
You have broken other patterns before.
– Osasu Oviawe
No Strings Attached
If you can’t see the string, you are blinded by the bait.
You draw yourself in, and you will get hooked for life.
Do not trade in your freedom for a free offer.
– Osasu Oviawe
Words
Words matter. The ones we read, the ones we write, the ones we hear, and the ones we speak.
Our lives are shaped by the words that dominate our hearts. Actions are just tools that serve words.
The words that fill your conversations are perfectly designed for the reality you currently live.
To change your life, change your words.
– Osasu Oviawe
A reminder
Again, I say there is no one more stubborn than the one God is trying to save.
– Osasu Oviawe
Let Go
Everything you hold shackles you.
Letting go liberates.
– Osasu Oviawe
Wounds
Some wounds from the past have healed.
Yes, they left a scar, but scars are only ego threatening, not life threatening.
Going back to cut open a scar in order to understand the injury does not help you heal. It just opens up a new wound.
One that will leave a scar on a preexisting scar.
As scars build up on scars, it is not long before you start looking like a monster or, worse still, being resistant to healing.
The wounds from the past needing reopening are the unhealed ones. The unhealed ones hold a sharp pain within. They do not have a scar but a cover. You can’t heal a wound that time has not been able to without medical help. Get it.
Whether scar or cover, do not reopen wounds yourself.
– Osasu Oviawe