No one knows a person like their significant other.
This is why nothing makes us more whole than when a significant other loves and accepts us.
It is hard to love and accept ourselves, considering all we know about ourselves.
To receive such grace from another is a form of kindness we are wont to pay back.
This is why I support the idea of marrying someone who is kind. Not generous or accommodating, but kind. Someone who sees you, embraces you, and allows time for the warmth from that embrace to melt the calluses that the past has etched onto your heart.
On the flip side, nothing shatters a human into unsightly parts like rejection by a significant other. The thing with shattering is that some broken-off parts are never found again. People never really become whole again after it, even if they meet a kind person.
But whole or not, prioritize being a kind person. The world desperately needs it. Your significant other needs it. You need it.
– Osasu Oviawe