A lucky man wins a jackpot in the lottery. He quickly spends all his winnings, faster than the time it took him to win. He does not become a wealthy man after winning, instead he returns to his former state.
Why?
He doesn’t see himself as a wealthy person, he sees himself as a lucky person and in his mind, he will win the lottery again, because that’s what lucky people do.
Everybody else wonders why he cannot be more, they do not see him like he sees himself.

A mature child gets married. He runs to his friends and parents at every sign of trouble, for advice on how to improve things with his wife. The one person he wants to improve his relationship with, is never consulted.
Why?
He doesn’t sees himself as an adult requiring communication skills, but as a child requiring complaining skills. And since his wife will rather have communication than complaints, he goes to those that will treat him as a victim.
Everybody wonders why their advice to him is not working. Nobody remembers to ask him if he has discussed the issues with his wife.

A competent operator is promoted to a management role. He has moved from managing the levers of machines to managing the levers of behavior. He expects black or white, but he gets 50 shades of grey. He applies a carrot and stick approach, but realises he is fast running out of sticks and has carrots that no one wants.
Why?
He sees himself as a competent operator that was promoted for his ability to get results with or without people, not a person that develops people with or without results.
Everyone wonders why someone so skilled is struggling with his people. He wonders why he seems to be the only one that cares about results.

You cannot long separate a man from his mindset.

How do we change mindsets?

Ask the questions that only the required mindset can answer.

– Osasu Oviawe