The familiar

We pay more attention to the new than we do to the familiar, yet the familiar holds more accessible treasures than the new.

We go on a wild goose chase for fleeting treasures in the new, and if we are lucky, the new points us back to explore the familiar.

It is hard not to be subsumed for the allure of the new. It is hard not to deprioritise the familiar. But we must break hard shells if we are to access the soft sweet core of life.

– Osasu Oviawe


As it is impossible to precisely predict what the future brings, it is also impossible to be perfectly prepared.

You are either over-prepared or under-prepared.

Considering the risk of tail events, it is best to be over-prepared as it gives you the best chance of continuity.

But as the future is fickle, you are just as likely to be under-prepared, in spite of your best efforts otherwise.

This is why resilience – the courage to keep going, is the one value the future submits to.

– Osasu Oviawe


Values direct attention.

People do not listen to the values you profess, they look for the things you pay attention to.

Where there is a mismatch, you are seen as either a wishful thinker, or worse still, manipulative.

– Osasu Oviawe

Find the others

People feel frustrated after getting through a difficult time, especially when the “why” for all the pain they went through is not immediately apparent.

It almost comes across like they are ungrateful, in spite of all that has been contributed to get them through. But they are not ungrateful,  just confused.

Pain should at least serve a higher purpose, but when pain is just experienced in and of itself, long after the pain has gone, its scars calcifies the heart, making it difficult to have rhythm.

An available “why” I have found to be beneficial is “find the others.”

When you go through pain that seemed pointless, find the others going through such pain, and you will find a higher purpose. There is always something you can contribute to make their experience better.

To find the others requires vulnerability. You need to let the demons that plague you out, for peace to fill the space created.

Pain binds people stronger than pleasure.

Your pain is an opportunity to connect deeply and contribute freely.

If you cannot find the why for your pain, find others who are bearing it like you.

– Osasu Oviawe


In some aspects of life, you will be a disappointment to those you love and/or respect. Worse still, you might be a disappointment to yourself.

The feeling is universal, and instead of being a burden, it can be an opening.

An opening to connect deeply with who or what matters to you. People rush to help when a loved one admits what they are struggling with. The help is usually more overwhelming than it is underwhelming.

You are not alone. You are never alone.

The branches of your life that have not grown as you wish might be aspects that need to be pruned for new shoot. Instead of continuing to hold on to it as a reminder of failings, allow something beautiful use its base to sprout.

– Osasu Oviawe


Something is broken. Something fundamental.

It is too complex to name, but too real to miss.

Like with all things broken, some can be managed as they are, some can be mended for utility, yet ultimately, broken pieces need to either be rebuilt or replaced.

– Osasu Oviawe

Cue 160 – What’s The Most Difficult CEO Skill? Managing Your Own Psychology

What’s The Most Difficult CEO Skill? Managing Your Own Psychology

“Whenever I meet a successful CEO, I ask them how they did it. Mediocre CEOs point to their brilliant strategic moves or their intuitive business sense or a variety of other self-congratulatory explanations. The great CEOs tend to be remarkably consistent in their answers. They all say: “I didn’t quit.”” – Ben Horowitz


A friend once asked me, “Why are you optimistic?”

My initial reply was, “It is an energy source.”

I have tried other possibilities, and they all drain me.

In a world where nothing is ever as good or as bad as it seems, and all things pass away, what works for me is faith in the probability that better is always a possibility.

– Osasu Oviawe