It sounds unusual to proclaim that you are not searching when you are married. Typically, it should go without saying.
But ask any married person, and they will tell you it is easier to search when married.
Ask anyone committed to anything, and they will tell you that distractions come more easily to them.
A stronger “No” to alternatives is required, for anyone committed to a particular direction.
The pleasure of a shortcut (cheat alternative) is a high that is difficult to stop, once started. No matter how hard it is to say no, it will be significantly harder to stop taking the shortcut. Learn to say an early “No” to distractions.
When next you get committed to something, step up and proclaim – “married and not searching”.
– Osasu Oviawe