July 24, 2020 – Osasu Oviawe

The expectation of gratitude is a set-up for despair.

Whatever you do for others, the only gratitude you can control is the gratitude that you are able to give. The expectation that those you give to will be grateful will only lead to misery.

This is not an excuse for the ungrateful, but a soothing balm for the givers. I have seen too many people who go out of their way to share, yet end up depressed, because of their expectation of at least some gratitude. Most times, what you actually get for giving is indifference, resentment, suspicion or entitlement.

The real satisfaction in giving is in giving, not in the gratitude of the receiver. Getting any gratitude is a bonus, a rare bonus, one to be treasured, but not to be sought.

Learn to give without an expectation of reciprocation. It will free you from any burden associated with giving.

One of the ways to learn this is by giving anonymously. A faceless hand that gives.

– Osasu Oviawe

Matthew 13:18-23
“Hear then the parable of the sower. When any one hears the word of the kingdom and does not understand it, the evil one comes and snatches away what is sown in his heart; this is what was sown along the path. As for what was sown on rocky ground, this is he who hears the word and immediately receives it with joy; yet he has no root in himself, but endures for a while, and when tribulation or persecution arises on account of the word, immediately he falls away. As for what was sown among thorns, this is he who hears the word, but the cares of the world and the delight in riches choke the word, and it proves unfruitful. As for what was sown on good soil, this is he who hears the word and understands it; he indeed bears fruit, and yields, in one case a hundredfold, in another sixty, and in another thirty.”

Homily:

Understanding is the distinguishing factor in our journeys.

Understanding comes from obedience to His Word.

It is through obedience that we find the “true why” of life (Meaning), the “true how” of life (Being) and the “true what” of life (Purpose).

We struggle so much to find the path, when our path calls out to us. We prefer the conflict of disobedience, over the calm of obedience. Understanding seems too easy, when it is founded on obedience. We prefer it to be hard, so we disobey.

Instead of continuing in the yearly rat race of New Year resolutions, vigils, fasts and holy day celebrations and an ever-present lack of completeness, it is wise to commit to daily obedience of His word – Love God, Love self, Love neighbor.

“My children, listen to what your father teaches you. Pay attention, and you will have understanding.” – Proverbs 4:1

Day: July 24, 2020

Giving

Understanding