When I was younger, I believed love was a chance experience. I believed it just happened, and I was helpless to it.

That helplessness made me also believe I had to endure all it came with, without boundaries.

To my mind, all that such a beautiful chance experience came with must serve a higher purpose no matter how toxic.

I have grown to realise that love is a choice. It does not just happen. It is willed into being.

Where that choice is not standing on values and virtues, it cannot long stand in time.

I may not be able to choose what life offers, but I can choose what I take from what is on offer.

– Osasu Oviawe