In relationships, spontaneity is like diced meat in soup. It is a welcome surprise that gives you something pleasant to chew on, a moment to savor the soup.
But routines are the soup. Without a good soup, diced meat becomes an irritant that reinforces the poor experience.
Build mutual routines that make surprises in your relationship worthwhile. Date nights, letters, dressing up, movies, series, board games, sports, cooking… Whatever connects your interests and promotes memory-etching conversations.
Add spontaneity to intentional routines. Don’t serve it in mindless routines.
– Osasu Oviawe