Day: April 18, 2019

Once bitten, twice shy

~ osasuoviawe

Trust is fragile. Once lost, it takes twice the effort to get it back and even that effort, comes with no guarantee of results.

Trust is the currency of all relationships. Daily, we are either building trust or destroying it. Daily, we are either building or destroying relationships – as an organisation or as an individual.

At the core of trust is integrity (from the Latin word integer, which stands for whole).

Interestingly, trust is not dependent on judgment of good or bad, it is dependent on the predictability of outcomes from a relationship. To predict, a degree of consistency (integrity) is required.

Integrity as used here is not same as honesty. There are dishonest people that are trusted to be dishonest, and the predictability of their dishonesty is used to build a relationship. Integrity as used here refers on consistency.

Where you are consistent, you build trust.

Where you are inconsistent, you destroy trust.

– Osasu Oviawe

Service

~ osasuoviawe

John 13:3-15
Jesus, knowing that the Father had given all things into his hands, and that he had come from God and was going to God, rose from supper, laid aside his garments, and girded himself with a towel.
Then he poured water into a basin, and began to wash the disciples’ feet, and to wipe them with the towel with which he was girded.
He came to Simon Peter; and Peter said to him, “Lord, do you wash my feet?”
Jesus answered him, “What I am doing you do not know now, but afterward you will understand.”
Peter said to him, “You shall never wash my feet.” Jesus answered him, “If I do not wash you, you have no part in me.”
Simon Peter said to him, “Lord, not my feet only but also my hands and my head!”
Jesus said to him, “He who has bathed does not need to wash, except for his feet, but he is clean all over; and you are clean, but not every one of you.”
For he knew who was to betray him; that was why he said, “You are not all clean.”
When he had washed their feet, and taken his garments, and resumed his place, he said to them, “Do you know what I have done to you?
You call me Teacher and Lord; and you are right, for so I am.
If I then, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also ought to wash one another’s feet.
For I have given you an example, that you also should do as I have done to you.

Homily:

“For who is greater, the one who is at the table or the one who serves? Is it not the one who is at the table? But I am among you as one who serves.” – Luke 22:26-27

“The greatest among you will be your servant. For those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.” – Matthew 23:11-12

Jesus Christ set the example of servant leadership – which is a fancy term for care.

But in the above exchange with Peter, is also a note of caution. Peter first hesitated to be served, then he moved from that side of the pendulum, to almost wanting a full bath. Jesus demonstrated in the exchange that service should be need-based and not just for the sake of service. Or else, you limit and not free the served.