Hurdles are meant to be crossed, not carried.
Day: August 2, 2020
Cue 84 – Conversations and Ideas
“The people you regularly have these conversations with will have a long lasting effect on you. You’ll keep simulating conversations with them in your head as you mull over ideas alone. These simulated conversations then become part of your internal monologue and shape how you think. Making bad conversations your default could permanently wreck your ability to have good ideas. That makes it important to know who the right people to talk about ideas with are.” – Harj Taggar
A flaw
I learnt something recently from a loved one. She complained that most times when she calls during the day, my response is, “Please I am busy right now. Can I call you back later?”
Even though I keep to my word and call later, the emotions required to share what she initially intended is no longer there and so the conversation goes into the mundane. Sometimes, if the call is long enough, which it usually isn’t, she gets around again to share what she intended in the first place. But most times, that information is lost and buried, leading to a subtle resentment for not being prioritized.
It was an awakening moment to me, as I thought about many other close friends and family that most likely also feel this way. This bad behavior is borne out of my urge to complete any deep work I start, before jumping into anything else. I then asked if it was okay for me to turn my phone off whenever I am doing deep work and then turn it back on when I was free to engage, and she said, “No, the impact will be the same”. It was then I realized again that I needed to re-prioritize. Just like a call from my CEO can be taken at any time and prioritized above any deep work I was into, a call from my loved ones should be ranked even higher. I thought I was doing better, as I had gotten this learning before and I wrote about it in “I will call you back”. But obviously, old habits die hard.
I am grateful for loved ones that find the most caring way to shine a light on my flaws and blind spots. I will continue to learn ways to do better.
– Osasu Oviawe
Boundless love
Galatians 4:3-7
So with us; when we were children, we were slaves to the elemental spirits of the universe. But when the time had fully come, God sent forth his Son, born of woman, born under the law, to redeem those who were under the law, so that we might receive adoption as sons. And because you are sons, God has sent the Spirit of his Son into our hearts, crying, “Abba! Father!” So through God you are no longer a slave but a son, and if a son then an heir.
Homily:
Laws only apply within human boundaries.
A love without boundaries cannot be subject to the law.