Mentors

The odds of you being a billionaire are better than the odds of you being born. Yet you are here reading this.

A lot of what is probable is treated as impossible, because we are poor at probabilities.

Look at where you are. Here right now. There is at least one impossible task of the past that you have achieved. A task that used to trigger anxiety but is now a memory that puts an upside down rainbow on your lips.

In organisations, “impossible ” goals are called “stretch” goals. Guess what? People crush them every year. But when most of those same people are asked to define goals for themselves, they run behind the shield of achievable or realistic. They grossly understate their goals and sadly, they don’t even crush it.

It seems we are better at driving for higher goals under the rule of hierarchy. Without this in our personal lives, we lose direction like a plant without sunlight. This is why people hack it with mentors in their personal lives. We seem designed to require an accountability partner. Someone you respect enough to want to show up as your best self, yet is kind enough to gently nudge you back up when you fall.

– Osasu Oviawe

Single or married?

1 Corinthians 7:25-31
Now concerning the unmarried, I have no command of the Lord, but I give my opinion as one who by the Lord’s mercy is trustworthy. I think that in view of the present distress it is well for a person to remain as he is. Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be free. Are you free from a wife? Do not seek marriage. But if you marry, you do not sin, and if a girl marries she does not sin. Yet those who marry will have worldly troubles, and I would spare you that. I mean, brethren, the appointed time has grown very short; from now on, let those who have wives live as though they had none, and those who mourn as though they were not mourning, and those who rejoice as though they were not rejoicing, and those who buy as though they had no goods, and those who deal with the world as though they had no dealings with it. For the form of this world is passing away.

Homily:

I have been single and I am now married.

There is an abundance of joy and sorrow on both sides.

I understand the sentiment in the above passage. Because the expectation of joy is higher in marriage, the drop into sorrow is steeper.

Whether you choose to stay single or get married, converse deeply with God about it, and make sure you fully own the choice. If you feel unsure, stay as you are until you can own the choice. That is the only way to find balance through the peaks and valleys that will come.

Single or married? It is your choice.