Today, I reflected on a conversation I had with a loved one. One statement lingered in my mind –
“Forgiveness is easy. Healing is hard.”
Some truths jolt me into a realisation of our shared reality. This was one.
The advice to “forgive and forget” is really a nudge to “forgive and heal”.
Without healing, the torture becomes internal. No one else gets it but you. It is hard to explain internal pain, so you resort to groaning.
When you truly heal, the scars might hold a backstory, but the story does not hold you back.
Healing is hard. I pray for the courage to continually do hard things, gracefully.
I am thankful for those who do not just forgive, but have the courage to heal. Because of them, we keep moving forward.
Day: April 5, 2021
Mentoring
Stop asking people to be your mentor.
Great mentors always say no to such requests. They understand it is only an ego trip.
You cannot know the mentor you need until you are walking the path.
Do your work, and as you progress, you will have a specific area that needs clarity.
When you have a specific question, ask it, and apply the insights from the feedback.
Then come back to show your work – What worked? What did not work?
This is how the conversation starts. From your feedback on what worked and what didn’t, you would draw out even more insights.
Mentoring is a relationship, not a transaction.
– Osasu Oviawe