Enthusiasm and Freedom

Today, I celebrated with one friend and said goodbye to another.

One was getting married and asking me for Day 1 advice. I had only one question – “Are your parents on board with you for this?” He was taken aback. Afterall, millennial should hate asking for permission. I explained to him that parents are our forerunners, ignore their advice and you will get to see what they’ve seen, but it will be too late to avoid a crash.

The other had resigned some weeks back and asking me for last day advice. I had only a long commentary – “There will be times you would look back, wondering what treasures you lost by leaving this path. Whenever that time comes, remember how free you felt when you dropped your resignation letter. If here was so great why did it feel like chains fell off?” He was shocked. I explained to him that I fully understand the trade-offs on the path I’m walking, it sucks sometimes, but it serves a purpose beyond me.

I am thankful for Day 1 feelings (enthusiasm) and last day feelings (freedom).

Scarecrows

Fear trumps logic in the short and long term.

Which is why courage is a hard virtue to fake.

A bird that goes to the field in spite of the scarecrow is not 100% sure that the fear it feels is not rational. It goes in spite of the fear it feels.

The scarecrows in life are perfectly designed out of our fears. And their effect is routinely reinforced by the gatekeepers.

We go to the field not because we are free of fear, but in spite of fear.

– Osasu Oviawe