Auto-resolve

Today, I noticed a cousin had started dropping motivational quotes. I immediately knew heartbreak had been uploaded.

When I tried to call him, he did not pick. He never likes to give others the joy of laughing at him.

Strangely, everyone but you knows who is right for you and who is wrong for you. You just pray you are humble enough to listen early, before you are neck deep in sunk cost.

From my experience, what helps is to keep your intention public at the start. This way, those who might know better will have their say. Then, go private when you actually start dating.

You really do not want to start fighting everybody on things you should have known from the start.

Anyway, my cousin knew he was on a long thing for quite a while, but like me, he was stubborn in his choices.

I am thankful that things somehow resolve themselves, in spite of us.

Just tell your story

All some people have is their misery. It is uniquely theirs, sets them apart, and connects them deeply to their journey.

Offering an alternative narrative to them is like directly attacking the very essence of their being. They fight back with a vengeance.

They do not need a positive light on their suffering. They are happy with living in the shadow it casts.

When you meet such people, do not give up on them, but do not waste your time trying to change them.

Let them tell their harrowing stories. But do not reciprocate.

Tell your own story of triumph. They will ultimately reciprocate and shift ground. Be patient.

Life is hard. Never try to take away the stories that keep people going – good or bad. Just tell your story.

– Osasu Oviawe