Conversation

Today, I had an interesting conversation with a colleague.

With permission, I will be sharing my part of the conversation, as it encapsulates my thoughts on some subjects.

“[17/10, 09:33] Osasu: We all have our demons. The less sophisticated people let them show, but we all carry our demons. The one who let their demons show, get ridiculed, but they are also the more likely ones to get help. The ones who never let their demons show, get consumed by them – inside out.

[17/10, 09:38] Osasu: As you go higher in your career, you realise that just as your parents are fallible, your bosses are even more fallible. And just like most parents, they are impervious to correction.
The trick is not to lose respect for them, in spite of their failings.
Because if you lose respect for them, they will know, and they will hurt you.”

The other side of the conversation was even more interesting, but I do not have permission to share it. I am journaling my part, as it will help me to always remember the full conversation.

I am thankful for conversations which help to unravel knotty situations.

Words

The strength in every human runs deeper than they will ever explore.

We get glimpses of this when someone with a terminal illness embraces life with so much gratitude.

Every human you see is wrestling with something you know nothing about. Even when they share, you cannot truly understand, because our experience of reality is as unique as us.

Be cautious with words.

People continually underestimate the power of words.

They are the most significant and most common life changing event humans experience.

The most recurring word a child hears, shapes its future.

It is the longest known and used programming language.

To explore depths of strength unknown to humankind, we must be intentional about the words that carry us into the deep.

– Osasu Oviawe

Cue 147 – Can People Change? The Psychological Möbius Strip That Keeps Us from Ending Painful Relationships

Can People Change? The Psychological Möbius Strip That Keeps Us from Ending Painful Relationships

“While the death of a loved one can make the notion of moving on unfathomable at first, it also makes it, by definition, inevitable — there is no other recourse, for such loss is unambiguous and irreversible. But there is a species of grief, spawned of a type of loss that is more ambiguous and elastic, that muddles the notion of moving on into an impassable and disorienting swamp: the cyclical grief of loving someone on the grounds of their highest nature and watching them fall short of it over and over, in damaging and hurtful ways, which you excuse over and over, because of their impassioned apologies and vows of reform, or because of the partly noble, partly naïve notion that a truly magnanimous person is one who always has the breadth of spirit to forgive — a notion rooted in a basic misapprehension of what forgiveness really means.” – Maria Popova