Who you marry is by some order, the most critical decision you will make.
Making the decision right does not make marriage easier, but it makes you stick with it, without losing yourself.
Marriage, like most meaningful things in life, is hard. Best to do hard things with people that support you.
Marriages that work have a mutual support system each partner trusts and connects with. The support system can be a friend, a parent, a therapist, a priest, a sponsor or sometimes a child.
The conventional advice is that marriage is between two people, and the two should go through it isolated. It is the safe advice, especially as there are many poor support systems, but it is also poor advice. Support systems are important.
Just as it is important for two partners getting married to find eachother, it is just as important to find a mutually trustworthy support system.
The lucky ones find such a system, the unlucky ones never find such a system.
Finding a trustworthy support system in any hard venture is a life hack.
– Osasu Oviawe