I read two tweets from Jenée Desmond-Harris today that blew my mind.
“I started dividing my to-do list into 1) things I have to do, 2) things I want to do, and 3) things other people want me to do. Life changing! I often don’t get to #3 and I finally realized omg, is this what it means to have boundaries?! 勞勞勞”
“You always hear about having boundaries and I always kinda thought that meant being mean and yelling “No!” And telling people to leave you alone lot but I think it can also mean just cheerfully doing your own thing.”
It does not even have to be a literal to-do list. The thought process applies to just about any action you choose to execute.
What do I have to do?
What do I want to do?
What do other people want me to do?
Prioritise the answer to the first two.
Optionalize the last one.
– Osasu Oviawe