When ladies describe gentlemen, three characteristics ring true: they offer a listening ear, a kind tongue, and hands that build.
When a child is fond of their father, the same characteristics are enshrined: he listens, he is kind, he builds.
It seems in all spheres of life where human connection occurs, these three things matter the most.
Listen:
Not the keep quiet and wait for them to finish type, but the gossip type of listening.
Listen to get all the juice and speak only to extract more juice.
Kindness:
Not the golden rule kind, but the platinum rule kind.
It only follows good listening, because you only know what people need if you have truly listened to them.
Build:
Not the type that seeks glory but the type that seeks utility. And when the work is done right, it is not controlling. It is liberating.
– Osasu Oviawe