Excerpt from a conversation about life

I wish the past was a switch to flick and just move on.

For your mental health, I wish so, but in reality, you have to deal with insecurities you never thought you would have to, and you are hopelessly ill-equipped to just shrug them off.

Give yourself time to heal, not on a deadline, but on progressive milestones. You are making progress, but not on anyone’s timeline.

You have no more fight in you. For past, present or future. Stop fighting.

You have learning in you. Learn from all that is outside and within. Learn not to judge your teachers. Learning to live and let live. Learn to love and let love, again.

You might not be able to live the love you always dreamt of. You can live the one you have left.

Your story is no longer a fairy tale, but it is your tale. Live it. Tell it.

– Osasu Oviawe

Cue 175 – John B. Calhoun

John B. Calhoun

“In July 1968, four pairs of mice were introduced into the habitat. The habitat was a 9-foot (2.7 m) square metal pen with 4.5-foot-high (1.4 m) sides. Each side had four groups of four vertical, wire mesh “tunnels.” The “tunnels” gave access to nesting boxes, food hoppers, and water dispensers. There was no shortage of food or water or nesting material. There were no predators. The only adversity was the limit on space.

Initially, the population grew rapidly, doubling every 55 days. The population reached 620 by day 315, after which the population growth dropped markedly, doubling only every 145 days. The last surviving birth was on day 600, bringing the total population to a mere 2200 mice, even though the experiment setup allowed for as many as 3840 mice in terms of nesting space. This period between day 315 and day 600 saw a breakdown in social structure and in normal social behavior. Among the aberrations in behavior were the following: expulsion of young before weaning was complete, wounding of young, increase in homosexual behavior, inability of dominant males to maintain the defense of their territory and females, aggressive behavior of females, passivity of non-dominant males with increased attacks on each other which were not defended against.

After day 600, the social breakdown continued and the population declined toward extinction. During this period females ceased to reproduce. Their male counterparts withdrew completely, never engaging in courtship or fighting and only engaging in tasks that were essential to their health. They ate, drank, slept, and groomed themselves – all solitary pursuits. Sleek, healthy coats and an absence of scars characterized these males. They were dubbed “the beautiful ones.” Breeding never resumed and behavior patterns were permanently changed.

The conclusions drawn from this experiment were that when all available space is taken and all social roles filled, competition and the stresses experienced by the individuals will result in a total breakdown in complex social behaviors, ultimately resulting in the demise of the population.

– John B. Calhoun

MAD

Mutually Assured Destruction.

“A strange game. The only winning move is not to play.”
– Professor Falken in the 1983 Movie War Games

Whatever you do, have the capacity and capability for war, but avoid it.

– Osasu Oviawe

Duty

You know the number you dial and hope they do not pick the call. Why do you even bother to make the call when it is filled with such anxiety?

This is a conflict that has plagued me for a while, until I realized that sometimes, duty trumps feelings.

Even when you wish the person on the other side would not pick, there is still honor in making the call.

Breathe a sigh of relief when the call is not picked.

Put on a big smile if it is picked.

Life goes on.

– Osasu Oviawe