If you are like some of us, reading the subject of this article will make you yawn and if you are like most of us, seeing someone yawn gives you an involuntary yawn.

The same applies when you listen to music from any source and then catch yourself later, humming the tune involuntarily. You might even struggle to connect when or how the tune was planted moments earlier. It is otherwise known as the last song syndrome or earworm effect.

The crowd you surround yourself with and the environment you choose, has an impact on your direction.

The choice of where you live and work (space), who you will live and work with (magnitude) and what you repeatedly see (light), will have a greater impact on your direction, than what you will be doing (time).

It is thus surprising that we start most life choices with what we will be doing. I have read the book – Start with why by Simon Sinek. Inspirational in parts, pedestrian in parts, and an apple advert overall, but it reinforced the wisdom in Steve Jobs’ words – “You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life”.

Most “successful” people do not really start with why, it is made up at the end, when an agreed measure of success is splashed on the journey.

Most success stories are actually hinged on where and with whom. That’s why there is a healthy dose of luck in them.

This is the reason I value meeting new people above other experiences. This might be in a face to face, online, phone calls, or through a book. Sometimes, it is hard to choose where you will live and that ultimately limits your choices on where you will work. But who you will live and/or work with and what you repeatedly see, is more within your control now, than it has ever been.

Choose them wisely, your direction depends on it.

– Osasu Oviawe

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