The benefit of the doubt is an extension of grace.

It is given to one who has otherwise shown themselves trustworthy or one who has not shown themselves untrustworthy.

Which is why such grace is rarely extended to self. We think we know ourselves so well and find ourselves untrustworthy. Every action we therefore take is seen by ourselves as willed by ourselves. But nothing is more untrue.

Many of our choices and crosses are shaped before we even developed agency for shaping. And so what we see as untrustworthy is the truth of humanity intimately shared through self.

The extension of grace should not be only to the trustworthy but also to the steady. The one who stays come what may: family, friends, self.

No one deserves more grace than those we know well.

Give them the benefit of the doubt.

– Osasu Oviawe

Tomorrow answers today’s questions, just as today answers yesterday’s.

What then happens when today holds no questions?

Then there’s no need for tomorrow, today, or yesterday.

Everything comes into the here and now.

And that is timelessness.

– Osasu Oviawe

Invest in what you believe will outlive you, then leave it alone to live out its days.

Invest like an owner and give enough independence to your principal to multiply your interests, but have a governance to ensure your principal knows you care about its well-being.

Invest in what will teach you the long game, then play the long game so that you get full value.

Whatever you do, invest.

– Osasu Oviawe

You do not need to break old habits that no longer serve you. You just need to ignore them, leave them, and replace them.

In trying to break habits, you get stuck with them as the breaking actually reinforces the muscles that keep them in place.

Find a new habit, one that triggers enough curiosity and stretch to have you coming back to drink from its banks until you flow in oneness with it.

It will reshape your muscles in ways that will make you unfit for your old habits.

Instead of trying to break old habits, replace them.

– Osasu Oviawe

In every coaching session I have been in, people know what to do, but for some reason, they do not do what they know.

The goal, therefore, is to remove the blockers that inhibit translating knowledge into action.

As with most things, the solution is always in the same environment as the problem. You just need to make it easier for them to meet.

Observation and an interplay of questions are the main levers of a coach.

Observation reveals the gap between knowledge and action.

Questions reveal why.

The coachee can usually take things from there.

– Osasu Oviawe

The recipe for peak performance: Eyes on the ball. Mind on the flow.

– Osasu Oviawe

Compliment people when they do things well.

No matter how small the thing. If you are able to notice it, it is big enough to be praised.

Even when they say they do not like praise, compliment them. It will help them notice that people observe that aspect of them, and they will be energized to maintain it.

A compliment goes to the foundation of being and lifts confidence. And if there’s any gift you can give to anyone, it should be an uplifted confidence in themselves.

– Osasu Oviawe

You are always one conversation away from doubt and one conversation away from faith.

Choose the conversation that serves the journey you are on.

– Osasu Oviawe

Your reach is beyond your vision.

Let it be kind.

– Osasu Oviawe

The greatest wins are the battles avoided, not the battles won.

Strength is only needed in aspects of life you have not yet gained understanding.

– Osasu Oviawe